MANTRAS FOR HAPPY LIFE

Akriti Jamwal. Updated: 12/19/2016 2:48:08 PM We the Women



We women are very perceptive and receptive. Infact I dare say that at time we tend to be deceptive, for ourselves. Just think of what you used to be and what you have become. There would be very less women out there who would be actually glad with what they have accomplished. Even the women doing great professionally or socially, might not feel content with what they have. When young, very few women pay attention to the changes they go through everyday and then comes the day when the changes become prominent; everyone can notice them. I am not talking about changes in appearance, I am talking about changes in your personality. And we all are aware, not every change is a good one. But that is not the point. Point is after every change, every addition and subtraction from your individuality, after every major event or phase, either good or bad, are you happy with what you are left with? Are you happy with what you have become?

I talked to few women who are or are trying to or aspire to be that charming happy lady and not the frustrated old goon. And I came to a conclusion that some very small changes in lifestyle or our perceptions can lead to drastic change in our individuality tomorrow. And being a women who aspire to have a happy and fulfilling life myself, I know how difficult this one small agenda can be to accomplish, at times. So I pointed out few things that help me or might help me. I would love to know what is your secret behind that genuine smile. You can share your suggestions and tips at [email protected] so that I could share them with other female readers. Here we go!!!

Mental health is the Key to a happy life. As we all know mind is complex and let's be straight, so is life. So to keep life and mind untangled we need to 'uncomplex' the complex. If you are questioning my use of word 'uncomplex', that's your clue, just chill. So here are tips to be mentally stable and healthy; and be happy.

CLARITY IS JUST BEHIND THE VEIL
There are many women, who, because of being brought up in oppressive environment cannot open their mind to world, to life even if they wish to. Their biggest problem is that they feel clueless. Happy news to them is WE ALL ARE CLUELESS. But we can get a grip on the scattered clues by introspecting. Sit, relax, think, don't over think and ask yourself questions about yourself, like you would if you want to know yourself. Trust me nothing feels better than being friends with the most essential person in your life, YOU.

HAVE CONTROL OVER YOUR LIFE.
Easier said than done, especially being women. Now, I don't mean to encourage you for retaliation because that is not the solution. By control I mean, choices you make everyday; from smaller ones to the life changing ones. It could be, what haircut you want, what you want to do with your life, which stream you want to choose for further studies, what profession you want to opt, if you want to work and live with your family or work miles apart and so many such decisions and choices. How will this help? This will help you take the credit or blame for yourself. Most of the women in their mid-life and even earlier, blame others for their failures. No offence, it could be possible. That's why it is important. Since it is easier to forgive yourself and move on.

YOU ARE NOT A SUPER HUMAN.
This is not in contradiction to previous point but an extension. You need to realise that you are just an ordinary being despite of the fact that you are one of a kind. We all make mistakes; we all have our dark and nasty sides; we have all been in situations that has traumatised us for life, in varying extents. To be happy, you have to forget and forgive, yourself. Start fresh, you are the canvass and you got the brushes and paints. Paint your life.

BE CREATIVE
No, you don't have to start painting, singing, writing or anything else of such sorts. Though you can always try, it is never too late. But the point is be creative with your life. I have come across women who are stagnated in their life and it is painful; they have settled in life and do not look forward to tomorrow, anymore. And that only leaves you gloomy. If not and you are at peace with yourself, you couldn't be happier. If yes, you need to be creative and start embellishing your life. You can start taking classes; driving, acrobatics, singing, astrology, interior designing. List is long.

STAY FIT
What does physical health has to do with mental health anyway? It does. Would you agree with me if I tell you that we women are self conscious. We mentally scan other women around. There are always women we admire and adore. Yet at the end of the day, it makes us feel inferior about ourselves. Being fit brings more confidence in you and so does all the admiration you get when you are in shape. If you do not care about others, what is to lose if you are healthy anyway.

PAMPER YOURSELF
Always take out time for yourself. Look into your eyes, in your reflection in the mirror and smile; tell yourself you are doing just fine. Visit friends and gossip. Go shopping, go spa, go for a ride/drive all by yourself,plan a trip; do what you want to do. Just be safe.

But these are just tips. There are a lot more and will be given here, time and again. But in the end you have to work things out for yourself. Have a big heart, sort out your life, organise it and don't sweat it. Everything is fine. In many case all the frustration gets so accumulated and seep in so deep that a few tips might not help. In that case take it from a well-wisher and friend THERE'S NOTHING WRONG TO TALK ABOUT YOUR LIFE, YOURSELF TO A CLOSE PERSON OR SEEK HELP. Strive to be Happy!! Be Happy!!
Updated On 12/19/2016 2:49:12 PM


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